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Why being lonely is super awesome


#1

Ok. Guys and gays some mean no good silly bear deleted my blog or as most of you know it as BioBlogzard! When you’re alone you can walk around naked, you can fart, you can smoke weed…from both ends :wink: you can also cook naked and expose yourself to your neighbors. So there, if you’re lonely just slip out of those dirty rags and strip for Jesus baby! You know he’s watching! :wink: :wink: :wink:


#2

Dude, being alone sucks. Granted, I do enjoy the occasional time to myself. However, nothign compares to spending time with people. I have been up to my fucking neck with work these past couple of weeks, and I have had no time to socialise. I have these burning sensations in my head, dizziness and tiredness because I have to work all day (yesterday I worked from 12pm-12am with 2 breaks for food). I have barely had contact with people, not even my own housemates. I don’t get the time to ring friends or family, a girl I had something with has stopped speaking to me for no apparent reason, my best friend has been acting like an arsehole recently (he’s no longer my friend), I’m living away from the majority of my friends and all my family which just makes it worse, not to mention that I spent the last weekend alone because all my housemates and other friends I would normally hang with were out of the city. I gotta say, worse fucking weeks of my life! I can’t wait till all this is finished, and things will be back to normal. Friends, shisha, Halo/GTA, football, films, music and fun!!


#3

I’ve just spent three weeks with people nonstop. Only since today I’m all alone, in a way it’s weird but pretty cosy to have some time for myself. But I do agree with Ify, it’s really essential to have time to socialise, spend hours and hours with friends, family and so on. I don’t think you’d like it, Bio, either to have everyday, every hour, all alone by yourself. One of the worse thing ever. It always happens that you need to talk or see someone.


#4

[quote=“Ify”]
Dude, being alone sucks. Granted, I do enjoy the occasional time to myself. However, nothign compares to spending time with people. I have been up to my fucking neck with work these past couple of weeks, and I have had no time to socialise. I have these burning sensations in my head, dizziness and tiredness because I have to work all day (yesterday I worked from 12pm-12am with 2 breaks for food). I have barely had contact with people, not even my own housemates. I don’t get the time to ring friends or family, a girl I had something with has stopped speaking to me for no apparent reason, my best friend has been acting like an arsehole recently (he’s no longer my friend), I’m living away from the majority of my friends and all my family which just makes it worse, not to mention that I spent the last weekend alone because all my housemates and other friends I would normally hang with were out of the city. I[/quote]

Wow, that fucking sucks. I agree though, loneliness is the worst thing that can happen to anyone, believe me. I’ve been betrayed by friends I trusted, dumped by girls I loved, rejected by people I relied on. You feel like a whole world just collapsed on you as loneliness starts to creep in all of a sudden. Despite all this, just remember one thing though- happiness comes from within and should be independent of other people. Don’t let anybody in your life control your degree of happiness. Nobody is that important.



Scarface has spoken.


#5

I love being alone. I have very little tolerance for stupid people, and I tend to believe that most people I come in contact with in a day are fucking idiots.



Bio’s right. You can do whatever you want when you’re alone. You can drink whenever and whatever you want, smoke whatever you want whenever you want, watch whatever you want, all without some twat complaining about what they wanna do. I’m naked right now as I type this.


#6

Being alone is awesome. Being lonely is not.


#7

[quote=“Angel”]
Being alone is awesome. Being lonely is not.
[/quote]


Ditto.

#8

I think being alone can be great most of the time. Then there are times when you just need to get out and be with people and interact. I think the alone vs. people person thing can work both ways. I dont want to be alone all the time but I also dont want to have to depend on other people to keep myself happy all the time. I think Scarface is right about how happiness comes from within.



As far as love etc. I doubt there is anyone in here who had/has complete control over how their lives and personal relationships go. You just have to roll with the punches and go with it. Try not to get too wrapped up in the small stuff. Do your best to be a good person and try to have fun in life. Lifes too short to dwell on petty BS.


#9

I’m going to hollywood to become a pornstar guys. I’m serious, I’m going to be like Dirk Diggler but without the drug addiction or the prostitution.


#10

[quote=“Biohazard”]
I’m going to hollywood to become a pornstar guys. I’m serious, I’m going to be like Dirk Diggler but without the drug addiction or the prostitution.
[/quote]

What kind of response do you expect to get out of statements like that? Even though your initial post was rather juvenile other people took it seriously and made a decent little topic out of it, but you still had to go and throw some stupid shit on it. Why?


#11

[quote=“Scarface”]
Wow, that fucking sucks. I agree though, loneliness is the worst thing that can happen to anyone, believe me. I’ve been betrayed by friends I trusted, dumped by girls I loved, rejected by people I relied on. You feel like a whole world just collapsed on you as loneliness starts to creep in all of a sudden. Despite all this, just remember one thing though- happiness comes from within and should be independent of other people. Don’t let anybody in your life control your degree of happiness. Nobody is that important.



Scarface has spoken.
[/quote]

Truer words have never been spoken!



I’m glad you understand. I’ve just never been in a situation like the one I am in now. However, it serves as a very strong character development period for me. Hopefully I’ll come out of the other end stronger than ever. But it’s just when shit after shit after shit, just builds up, on top of each other and it seems nothing can go right - it’s so hard not to be depressed.



Even relatively small things like when all that shit was happening to me, my Xbox also broke down, in other words one of the 2 sources of happiness I had left - friends and games (I could no longer enjoy film and music!!), I didn’t even have that. I thought I would be able to play GTA. So when I rang my helpline (my best mate who had agreed to help me out on this) and he declined to help, well I just knew that life had hit a new low. It sucks, but things WILL get better. You’re right, I can’t let other things bring me down.


#12

I’m bored…i’m going to the movies.


#13

[quote=“Ify”]
Truer words have never been spoken!



I’m glad you understand. I’ve just never been in a situation like the one I am in now. However, it serves as a very strong character development period for me. Hopefully I’ll come out of the other end stronger than ever. But it’s just when shit after shit after shit, just builds up, on top of each other and it seems nothing can go right - it’s so hard not to be depressed.



Even relatively small things like when all that shit was happening to me, my Xbox also broke down, in other words one of the 2 sources of happiness I had left - friends and games (I could no longer enjoy film and music!!), I didn’t even have that. I thought I would be able to play GTA. So when I rang my helpline (my best mate who had agreed to help me out on this) and he declined to help, well I just knew that life had hit a new low. It sucks, but things WILL get better. You’re right, I can’t let other things bring me down.
[/quote]

Every bad experience makes you both stronger and wiser in the long run. You feel like you’re into a lot of shit right now and there’s little to no hope for you. Believe me - in two years’ time you won’t even remember the exam stress you’ve been through or your girl’s last name. It’s just a cycle, happens to every one of us.


#14

Thanks man. Appreciate it :wink:


#15

[quote=“Scarface”]
Every bad experience makes you both stronger and wiser in the long run. You feel like you’re into a lot of shit right now and there’s little to no hope for you. Believe me - in two years’ time you won’t even remember the exam stress you’ve been through or your girl’s last name. It’s just a cycle, happens to every one of us.
[/quote]

I agree 100%.

Both sides of my family are extremely physically healthy, but on both sides run alcoholism and depression. Aside from bad family problems related to depression, I’ve had a long struggle with depression myself which has only in the last year been “gone”, and I feel like Hercules because of it.

As far as being alone, I love being alone, but only sometimes. My ex used to refer to me as “alone in the crowd”, which actually upset me when he first said it. But it’s true. I am a very introspective person, and I LOVE having “conversations” with myself. I always did as a little girl and I still do. As a kid I would take off into the woods with my dog and my pet goat (don’t laugh!!) and sit for hours just thinking and being with myself. It’s an incredible feeling.

HOWEVER, I like to spend most of my waking time with people. It can be something as simple as getting a bunch of my friends together to listen to music and paint, or renting a convertible and driving to another province, hostel hoping. I love friends, chilling, partying, exploring, whatever. BUT, I also like time alone; and walking around naked IS nice, but I’m also a nudist at heart.


#16

[quote]Every bad experience makes you both stronger and wiser in the long run. You feel like you’re into a lot of shit right now and there’s little to no hope for you. Believe me - in two years’ time you won’t even remember the exam stress you’ve been through or your girl’s last name. It’s just a cycle, happens to every one of us.[/quote]

That’s only true if you’re able to pull yourself back together after said bad experience, or you’ve convinced yourself that you played no part in making the bad experience come to pass. Maybe I’m just one of those people that isn’t capable of forgetting all the ways I’ve fucked up a good thing, but I think some mistakes never go away because like you said; it’s a cycle. It always comes back. It’s like the old Bright Eyes song “A Line Allows Progress, a Circle Does Not”.

[quote=“plunderbunnie”]
As far as being alone, I love being alone, but only sometimes. My ex used to refer to me as “alone in the crowd”, which actually upset me when he first said it. But it’s true. I am a very introspective person, and I LOVE having “conversations” with myself. I always did as a little girl and I still do. As a kid I would take off into the woods with my dog and my pet goat (don’t laugh!!) and sit for hours just thinking and being with myself. It’s an incredible feeling.
[/quote]

That’s kind of the way my childhood was as well. Well, without the dog and goat that is. Even though I had a pretty large family and we typically lived in small houses I’d still find ways to be alone. Even if it was just tucking myself under an end table and losing myself in the lives of my action figures for a few hours. High School is where I started to branch out and make friends, most of which I still have today. But then there was a period a few years ago where I kind of regressed back into my reclusive self and I’ve completely lost all social skills again. I sometimes think of my childhood as training for this particular period in my life.


#17

[quote=“plunderbunnie”]
I agree 100%.

Both sides of my family are extremely physically healthy, but on both sides run alcoholism and depression. Aside from bad family problems related to depression, I’ve had a long struggle with depression myself which has only in the last year been “gone”, and I feel like Hercules because of it.

As far as being alone, I love being alone, but only sometimes. My ex used to refer to me as “alone in the crowd”, which actually upset me when he first said it. But it’s true. I am a very introspective person, and I LOVE having “conversations” with myself. I always did as a little girl and I still do. As a kid I would take off into the woods with my dog and my pet goat (don’t laugh!!) and sit for hours just thinking and being with myself. It’s an incredible feeling.


[/quote]

Totally know where you’re coming from there. I wouldn’t laugh. I used to suffer from depression. Really bad. Then I just decided to say “Fuck THAT”. Seriously.



I come up with a lot of shit to write by talking to myself. Like, I play out the characters. Might seem weird, but whatever.



Yourself is your own best company.



I like my friends and all that, but seriously, I don’t depend on them for my happiness.


#18

[quote=“Ify”]
Truer words have never been spoken!



I’m glad you understand. I’ve just never been in a situation like the one I am in now. However, it serves as a very strong character development period for me. Hopefully I’ll come out of the other end stronger than ever. But it’s just when shit after shit after shit, just builds up, on top of each other and it seems nothing can go right - it’s so hard not to be depressed.



Even relatively small things like when all that shit was happening to me, my Xbox also broke down, in other words one of the 2 sources of happiness I had left - friends and games (I could no longer enjoy film and music!!), I didn’t even have that. I thought I would be able to play GTA. So when I rang my helpline (my best mate who had agreed to help me out on this) and he declined to help, well I just knew that life had hit a new low. It sucks, but things WILL get better. You’re right, I can’t let other things bring me down.
[/quote]

Video games and films are an escape from reality, just like drugs and alcohol, and when they fail you, it’s then that you find out who you are and what you’re made of.



I’m sorry you’re having such a shit time at life, bruv. Chin up, things will get better, and when you look at it in retrospect, you’ll say, “that was rough, but I made it.”


#19

I like my own company at times, but i get pretty damn bored and need to get out and about with friends or my hubby. Nothing beats a night over at a friends house watching TV, having a drink and chatting until like 6am.


#20

[quote=“Geoi”]
Video games and films are an escape from reality, just like drugs and alcohol, and when they fail you, it’s then that you find out who you are and what you’re made of.



I’m sorry you’re having such a shit time at life, bruv. Chin up, things will get better, and when you look at it in retrospect, you’ll say, “that was rough, but I made it.”
[/quote]

Yeah, exactly how I see it. I guess I’ll just have to wait and see.